Tag: psychology
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28/365: Picking up the pieces
This has been a long, habit breaking hiatus. But to be positive, I learnt quite a bit about myself from it: I clearly didn’t prioritise blogging and writing about my thoughts – hence when more urgent (but unfulfilling) tasks came about like house renovation, holiday planning etc, blogging fell on the back burner. Holidays also…
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21/365: Where you aim at determines what you see
Before, what was right, desirable, and worthy of pursuit was something narrow and concrete. But you became stuck there, tightly jammed and unhappy. So you let go. You make the necessary sacrifice, and allow a whole new world of possibility, hidden from you because of your previous ambition, to reveal itself. And there’s a lot…
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19/365: Adult friendships
Friendship is a reciprocal arrangement. You are not morally obliged to support someone who is making the world a worse place. Quite the opposite. You should choose people who want things to be better, not worse. it’s a good thing, not a selfish thing, to choose people who are good for you. It’s appropriate and…
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16/365: Intentional friendships
I disagree that you don’t make new friends after 60. What you have to do is you have to be intentional. You have to pursue people that you want to be friends with. And you have to say “I’m intentionally wanting to be your friend.” And it works. People hear that and then stick around,…
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15/365: I thought it was a Sagittarius thing
One “problem” is that we are designed to desire novelty. There comes a time when it feels like you have heard every one of your mate’s stories at least once and can anticipate what he or she will say next. The amorous boost provided by novelty is called the “Coolidge effect”. … Humans don’t have…
Frank Chen 